In summary, simply,

one does not create excuses for abuse or correlate this with right to assault someone physically,

knowing the outcome.

Cleaning is cleaning,

my statements are statements,

and banging/slamming knowing the effects...

They should never have correlated.

And all these mannerisms of asserting dominance, without yielding.

These things create a cycle, and the person has no choice but to respond in their defense.

If to protect/respect themselves.