In summary, simply,

 

one does not create excuses for abuse or correlate this with right to assault someone physically,

 

knowing the outcome.

 

 

Cleaning is cleaning,

 

my statements are statements,

 

 

and banging/slamming knowing the effects...

 

 

They should never have correlated.

 

 

 

And all these mannerisms of asserting dominance, without yielding.

 

These things create a cycle, and the person has no choice but to respond in their defense.

 

 

If to protect/respect themselves.