Understand what kind of insidious evil that is.
And how your perspective have already changed because of their words.
Oh, yes. There certainly is self-reasoning 'care' to what they say.
To which people buy it as genuine care/love.
Think again.
There is the opposite end of that spectrum.
Winner takes all.
They bought their way in, with better behavior.
Initial and past actions forgotten over time.
I can see from a distance, and in a timeline.
This is far more clear than you will see in that moment.