As I recall, per agreement Douglas agrees not to pass gas in the room.

As i've told him that my bed is located where the window/wind blows.

(I appear to have caught something and was coughing constantly at

the slightest change of air)

Immediately he passes twice, one sitting down, and then standing up.

I complain. He gives me a lecture on how it was in his right.

At this point, I say, "Stop! I'm going to go crazy!" Something like this,

out of frustration. I look up at him. He gets startled and jumps on the bed.

Conversation turns to. Douglas suggesting we take it to the supervisor,

I say "Ok. Let's go" He backs out. We reconcile after, he still continues, etc.

 

As i've written before, Douglas, in the beginning was using a type of

oppression. It wasn't violence, but it was attempting to subjugate

the person by acting like he could become a dangerous individual.

Then followed requests of help, and the harassment followed in this way.

I reacted with this yell. It was no doubt defense as I have seen him as a bully.

 

On reconciliation, the next day, Douglas says, "if you have a problem

with me Johnny, you can ask me to take it outside. And we fight out."

I agree that I will, if I have a problem with him. He also shakes my

hand saying "Sorry for saying shit about you Johnny."

 

We get along.

 

Problem is this. This backstabbing. Talking to people as if he did no wrong,

and as if I am the one who was attacking him, proceeds. He hides everything

he did, where as making me the bad guy.

 

 

I began to hear people murmuring about me behind my back. I see a tall black

guy in the shelter suddenly going for 'shadow boxing' talking to Douglas

and standing next to him. He passes by me somehow recognizing me but don't

say anything. I decide to investigate on this. What exactly is going on?

When he said "Sorry for talking shit about you Johnny" is he trying to

get people to fight me?

 

And just in case this is true, I decide to interrogate him outside,

beside witnesses. And I don't know if that particular guy was random or planned,

but that has happened. As you know now.

 

And yes, it still goes on. Even after we reconciled, that it was a misunderstanding.

That I thought he was a bully, gaslighting, backstabbing.

 

But even today, at the line up, waiting for lunch, some guy goes up to Douglas,

and asks, "you okay?" and walks by me looking at me in a funny way.

 

I thought something is wrong here. So I go to the courtyard where the TV is.

Sit down at the back of the room. The tall guy i spoke about before ups and leaves.

As he catches i'm there. Seems emotional in some way.

 

 

So it's like this. He hides all he does wrong. It's as if whatever he deviates

from agreement and pursues is okay, and when I react, he makes me look like

i'm going to hurt him (physically). If the guy disrespects you to the point

where he repeats his wrong, but when I attempt to talk, it's either a push

(despite having agreed before, completely contradicting himself all of a sudden,

at his convenience) or ignore.

 

It is diabolical!

 

I was acting by reason, try to talk it out. But when he becomes aggressive

with his 'push' on conversation trying to defend his on-going harassment.

I have no idea how to deal with a person like this.

 

Now even when all is said and done, he pushes on still, acting as if he is

the victim.

 

Second time i try to talk over this, I believe he said,

"what? you wanna have a 'fucking' conversation over this Johnny?"

(interrupting me as i try to speak to him gently)

i was on the bed, and i couldn't take how he was yelling and severing

my words. he doesn't give you a chance to speak.

I tapped the wall with back of my wrist as i was turned to the wall,

(on the bed) with my eyes closed. to state "enough!"

I couldn't take his ranting.

 

and it's like this. he has done extremely selfish things,

and he further harasses because he couldn't subjugate as he initially tried.

he acts as if he is the victim.

 

if so, why am i trying to get him to admit what he's done, and he just stays silent?

why were *we the ones affected by his insane ranting for hours on end?

why doesn't he take it straight to the supervisor if he has a problem?

 

he does these unreasonable, mischievous, or harassing things.

gaslights and continues. Nowadays I just don't say anything.

You can't reason with people like that.

 

They hide their wrong, hide the reasons why, what was worked up to.

And plays the victim. While the harassment continues.